What happens if you have a great relationship with someone, then you start working for them and discover that, not only do you really not like them, but you have lost respect for them? What do you do? Do you keep working for them? Do you quit?
The answer depends on a few things. First, you need to figure out if this is a temporary feeling because you’re pissed at them or if it is something that they have continued to do time and time again and you’ve just had enough.
Second, can you afford to walk away from them? Will it hurt you more than it will hurt them if you walk away? What do you lose in addition to salary by not working for this person? Are the perks enough to revisit the situation?
Third, how will it affect them if you walk away? Sometimes they need you so much and look at you as the one person they can beat on without realizing what they are doing. Can talking to them and pointing out specific instances make them aware of their actions?
Mind you, walking away isn’t always the right answer. The best thing you can do is sit down and make a list of your issues with this person. Next, hold that list for a week, but keep revisiting it and see if anything has changed. Lastly, sit down with your client once you have had time to think about what you want to say, and talk to them about how their actions affect you and your job. This last part is all in the presentation. Don’t attack them and be sure you are ready to take ownership of your role in all of the issues. Did you bring this on because you enabled them and now you’re not so they’re upset? Have you changed your attitude towards them because you are upset, but haven’t said anything to them about why you are upset?
Most important is your happiness. You may have a great relationship with this person, or family, but you have to realize you are just an employee and we are all replaceable. If you are miserable going to work every day, or cringe whenever their name pops up on phone, it may be time to step back and see if it is worth it to you to keep working for this person, or to maybe realize that it’s not a good fit. And that’s ok too!!